It is the dream of every expectant mother to carry and deliver their baby full term. However, there are just some things that are beyond a mother’s control and these instances may force a mother to deliver her baby prematurely.
Coping With Premature Delivery
There are several emotions that a mother experiences when she delivers her baby prematurely. Shock is the very first emotion that a mother feels when she learns that she has to deliver her baby before her due date.
It may take a while to process the information that your medical professional gives to you. You should try listening to their explanations and place your trust in them. Trust them that they have both your and the baby’s well-being at heart.
It is not rare for a mother to feel grief, sadness and fear when she delivers her baby earlier than the due date. Acknowledge these feelings, but do not let these emotions control and rule your life.
During your stay in the hospital, ask for help from your doctor or talk to the social worker on staff about these feelings. It is always best to have someone to talk to who understands and listens to you, especially during tough times.
Sickness, problems with the uterus, cervix or placenta can cause premature delivery. Remember that it is not your fault that some complications arose during the course of your pregnancy.
Letting the guilt go is easier said than done, but mulling over the guilt will not help you nor your baby to recover. Your baby needs you most this time and visiting your child in the NICU will help you both to recover.
It may be painful to see your little one in an isolate, but some studies have shown that a mother’s touch can help in the speedy recovery of the baby. Get involved in the care of your child as soon as you can and as often as you can.
Things You Should Do
Do not hesitate to ask for help and support from a professional, your family, friends and most especially from your spouse. Support groups can also help alleviate the feelings of guilt.
Having people around you understand because they went through the same things that you are going through, and pulled through can be a source of strength for you and your spouse.
Take care of yourself. Get enough sleep and proper nutrition. Keeping a journal of positive reinforcements can also help you cope with the feelings of guilt.
Write down statements like, “I’m a good mother.” or “I made the right decision. I chose life for my baby.” (This statement is of great help for the mothers who had to consent to emergency c-section.) Believe these statements and be empowered.
If after all these steps, you still feel guilty, talk to a counselor.