Top 21 Tips to Become an Amazing Single Parent After Divorce

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There are many reasons why parents getting divorce. I have many friends who are single parent, single moms and single dads. I think being a single parent now a days is a trend, LOL (just joking).

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Seriously, single parent is not easy as we think and we could not feel what they feel especially in the beginning which they raising their children alone without a partner beside them.

Cost in divorce is not a joke, which everybody knows the consequences of divorce. I hope that these 21 tips to become an amazing single parent can help after you read it.

  1. Be honest with kids – Make sure what you tell them is appropriate for their age. But remember that lies will catch up and make things worse in the long run.
  2. Don’t bad-mouth the other parent – It’s important to model good behavior for your children by getting along with your ex.
  3. Never use your kids as a weapon – Don’t ask your children to spy on your ex and report back their every move. This will make your child feel uncomfortable and like they are betraying the other parent.
  4. Don’t give your kids the guilt trip – Let them make their own decisions. You may not like that your child wants to go on vacation with the other parent. But when you are divorced this is the reality of the situation.
  5. Be consistent with everything you do – The kids are living in two different households. Make sure they have a routine that is consistent. That way they will know what to expect.
  6. Communicate with your ex – I know this may sound impossible, but it’s one of the best things you can do. Let your ex know when you are going on vacation. If the school calls, make sure to let your ex know. That way the kids won’t be able to pull one over you.
  7. Encourage your kids to talk about their feelings – Let them have space to talk about how they are feeling without judgment.
  8. Love your kids – And stop hating your ex. This will eventually bring you down.
  9. Acknowledge their feelings of wanting their parents to get back together – But make sure you are realistic. You don’t want to give them false hope.
  10. Don’t let your kids get away with murder – I know you feel bad about the divorce and you are worried about how it will affect your kids. You still have to discipline them. Don’t let them get away with anything they wouldn’t get away with if you were still married.
  11. Do not parentify your child – Don’t talk to your child about how you feel or your ex. This is something you save for your close friends or a professional.
  12. The divorce is not your kids’ fault – Make sure you tell them that, and make sure they understand.
  13. Your kids are not the messengers – I know your ex may be difficult. This doesn’t mean that you make your kid the messenger. This will cause unnecessary stress in your child’s life.
  14. Control your temper – I know you have angry feelings about divorce. You never thought this would happen, but it did. You need to accept what is.
  15. Share the chores – If your kid vacuums at your house, don’t make him/her vacuum again at your ex’s house. This requires clear communication. Your child shouldn’t have to suffer and have double the work.
  16. Let your kids be kids – Don’t involve them in adult problems, or force them to make decisions they aren’t equipped to make.
  17. Maintain your kids community of support – Just because your child lives in two households doesn’t mean they should have two sets of friends.
  18. Communicate with the in-laws – Maybe, you didn’t get along with them, but your kids love them. Make sure they still get to visit the grandparents.
  19. If possible, spend time together like you did when you were married – Go out to dinner once in a while, or spend time together lounging at the pool.
  20. Take care of yourself – Don’t neglect yourself because you are divorced. This means keep up with medical and dental appointments. Get your hair done, go to the spa, or take a bubble bath.
  21. Stay hopeful – I know you may be feeling burned. This is actually a natural response to a divorce. Learn what you can and where you went wrong. Don’t give up on yourself. There will be somebody else when you are ready.

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As study show that many children of divorce grow up to be very responsible. They have learned how to live in two households, and how to compromise.

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